Helping a Loved One
Guidance for Supporting Someone with Compulsive Shopping Disorder
When someone you love is struggling with compulsive shopping, it can feel overwhelming and challenging to know how to help. At Retail Therapy Unplugged, we believe that recovery is a journey best taken with the support of caring family and friends. This page provides actionable guidance and resources to help your loved one regain control while protecting your emotional well-being.
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Understanding Compulsive Shopping Disorder
Compulsive shopping disorder, also known as oniomania, goes beyond occasional overspending. It’s a behavioral pattern driven by emotional triggers, stress, or underlying psychological challenges. Recognizing that this is a condition—not a lack of willpower—is the first step toward offering meaningful support.
Key traits of compulsive shopping may include:
- Frequent, uncontrolled spending despite negative consequences.
- Hiding purchases or financial problems.
- Emotional relief or euphoria immediately after buying, followed by guilt or regret.
How You Can Help
1. Start with Empathy
Approach your loved one with compassion and understanding. Acknowledge their feelings without judgment and remind them they’re not alone in facing this challenge.
What to Say:
Call To Action“I’ve noticed you’ve been feeling stressed lately, and I want to help. How can I support you?”
2. Open the Lines of Communication
Conversations about compulsive shopping can be difficult. Choose a time when your loved one is relaxed and open to listening. Use “I” statements to express concern without assigning blame.
Example:
“I feel worried when I see you struggling with finances. I want to work together to find a solution.”
3. Encourage Self-Reflection
Help your loved one explore the emotional triggers behind their shopping behavior. This can create awareness and empower them to seek healthier coping strategies.
Practical Tip:
Call To ActionSuggest they keep a journal to track their spending habits and the emotions tied to purchases.
4. Set Healthy Boundaries
It is essential to maintain your emotional and financial well-being while supporting your loved one. Avoid enabling behaviors, such as bailing them out of debt, while showing unconditional care.
How to Set Boundaries:
“I want to help you but can’t provide financial assistance. Let’s explore other ways to address this together.”
5. Offer Resources and Encourage Professional Help
Guide your loved one toward tools and services that can make a difference, like online coaching, support groups, or Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT). Offer to explore these options with them.
Resource Tip:
Share our Programs and Family Resources pages for additional support.
Call To Action6. Protecting Your Own Well-Being
Supporting someone with a compulsive shopping disorder can be emotionally draining. It’s crucial to prioritize self-care and seek your own support if needed. Surround yourself with understanding friends, family, or support networks to navigate this journey together.
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- Signs It’s Time to Seek Professional Help
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